Dear Aunty Temilolu,
Thank you for always encouraging us virgins! I’m one of the strongest girls who refused to give up on the harshness of this world and hoping to see and experience the silver lining. However, it seems like nothing is happening. I’m already giving up. Preserving one’s virginity seems like a punishment. People are telling me to go and get married or get into a relationship so a man can help me out. Please counsel me ma.
Dear Mummy Temilolu,
I’m one of your daughters and I have been following you in Saturday PUNCH since I was a teenager as far back as 2013. Now I’m 23, and having some serious challenges with my parents who want me to give them money all the time whereas I’m processing my admission into the university and can only save little from the N10,000 I’m paid. I take care of my bills myself and not any boyfriend’s responsibility. I have been maintaining my sexual purity but I think they want me to get a man that will spoil me and I would be able to take care of them in return. My elder sister does just that and that’s why they love her so much and sometimes compare us, but I’m not ready to engage in sex till my wedding night. Please talk to my spirit, I’m so depressed!
Believe me, you can be anything and everything you want to be even if you can’t afford a three square meals today. I know times are really hard but I insist that not only can you survive, you can eventually have the best things in life! It’s just so sad that your parents want to become your responsibility and expect you to move with the spirit of the times to do just about anything to make money. How tragic! If your parents can’t put you on the path of righteousness, who can?
I must let you know that as females, we are created with so much virtues and innate gifts which can attract money to us and all we need do is to concentrate and develop ourselves optimally. I imagine what you may have been going through and I also imagine you may have reached a stage of despondency but you must never give up. Now is the time to utilise that gnawing pain in you and stretch yourself as much as possible to uncover the goldmine inside of you, which would enable you to make money almost effortlessly.
Can you use your brain for more intellectual pursuits? Can you use your beautiful hands to learn a skill right away? What’s your hobby? Turn it to a money-spinner! Just please get busy developing yourself and making the most of your life, virtues and potential and not making guys/men your focus.
You must develop yourself and discover your purpose in life real quick so your life can attract the right person and not a man that will end up treating you like a slave or a dog on a leash.
Believe me, if a lot of women were well prepared – emotionally, psychologically, academically, financially and spiritually, it will be most difficult for any man or a satanically-patriarchal society to abuse them.
I know a good number of your friends must be sleeping with or married to some rich men by now but can you please ignore them. Stop wallowing in self-pity and pursue your own destiny. Spend all the time you have now learning life skills and not waiting for a rich man to come and rescue you. Spend your time learning one handicraft or the other and start making your own money. Use all the energy that comes with your present discomfort to garner the supernatural fire of God.
Please, endure the hardship for a while, refuse to defile your body – the temple of the Holy Spirit and come and see whether God will not over-satisfy you. I promise you!
May your life attract the world’s most honourable men and may you be pampered by kings! Isaiah 49:23.
As for unreasonable, greedy and wicked parents who want to turn their daughters to prostitutes, may you not end up homeless in future when your daughters fling away today what they should use to build you mansions in future
I invite you to follow me on Facebook: Temilolu Okeowo; and Instagram: @Okeowotemilolu.
Are you still engaging in premarital sex? Each act devalues you! Your wonders are waiting to start. God is waiting for you to become a secondary virgin. You are most welcome on board the chastity campaign train and Girls Club is open to all girls and ladies. Please text your name, age, school or occupation and state of domicile to 07086620576. ,
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